How to Discuss Theology -- Without Losing Friends


  • Pray before, during, and after conversations
  • Listen
  • Be humble
  • Have an open mind
  • Don't interrupt
  • Think before you speak
  • Squash your insecurities
  • Avoid defensiveness
  • Realize your need to be right is wrong
  • Know that you could be mistaken, misinformed, or simply ignorant on some topics
  • Seek to understand
  • Ask many questions
  • Become skilled at articulating your own convictions
  • Assume the best of conversation partners
  • Recognize when to stop
  • Have a Bible handy
  • Take care with your tone of voice (both in-person and especially in writing)
  • Remember that if we do not love each other, we do not love God (1 John 4:7-8).